Free Spyware Doctor and Virus Scanner

You always run the risk of getting viruses or even spyware when you visit porn sites.  These nasty little programs will slow your computer and can cause potential security breaches in your computer system.  It is important to alway remain protected, and now there are some free programs that will allow you to protect yourself. 

 Spyware doctor is one of the most powerful programs I have seen to combat spyware off your computer.  Google has teamed up with Spyware doctor to release a free verstion of the software.  The only thing that is missing is being able to call for assistance.  Not a big deal for me.  You can get it at:  http://www.pctools.com/spyware-doctor/google_pack/#download.

 The next program is called AVG Antivirus.  Everyone knows that you need virus protection on your computer.  However, if you are like me you won’t want to pay out all that money.  AVG is free and it works very well.  It is constantly being updated, and the only thing that is missing is customer support.  Once again, it isn’t something that I really need.  You can get the program at:  http://free.grisoft.com/doc/2/

 This two programs will help you eliminate any threat from danger you may be in because of the internet.  Porn can be very damaging not only for your mind but also for your computer.  Like your mind, your computer needs protecting. 

 Once again, thanks for visiting Peers AP.

Free Internet Filter

Want to protect yourself against porn?  We feel that you have a right to a clean internet and an internet that is safe for kids.  If you have been looking for a program to filter internet content then look no further.  Personally I don’t believe in purchasing any software for internet filtering and Peers AP has found a free solution for your internet needs.  It is a program called Naomi and it only works for Windows XP and below.  I just learned that Windows Vista has a built in internet feature that works quite well.  So check it out and let us know what you think. 

http://www.radiance.m6.net/

Peers AP is back

We would like to apologize for the delay in information that we recently had.  Peers AP is currently undertaking many different tasks and projects.  We were going to release our information a little at a time, but we are changing philosophies and we are going to be doing some heavy updating to this blog and our website.  For those of you who don’t know Peers AP is a support group located in Raleigh, North Carolina.  We are a group of peers who support and strengthen each other  resist the temptation of porn while trying to find ways to regulate how porn is distributed.  Basically we are trying to make it more difficult to have access to porn.

On August 27, 2007 we decided that we should take our group online to offer a free alternative to people who are seeking help with their habit.  This last month we have been working quite literally around the clock to get the site up and running.  We have discussed how our support group will be operated, and we are incorporating different ideas to the program.  Unfortunately for Peers AP we accidentally erased the database that holds all of our web content so we have to start reprograming and writing all that information again.  So there might be a delay.  As of right now we are going to say that there is no delay, but we might announce one at a later date.

We also got a request in to include people who are trying to overcome bi sexuality.  So Peers AP has formed a partnership with a support forum for bi sexuality.  I can’t say anything else about this so you will have to stay tuned for an update.

Also a couple of people of members from Peers AP is helping with the formation of a new journalism company called Nintendo Fan Alliance.  Since we encourage our members to go out and learn things or do things, this is an important step in the growth of Peers AP.  Video games can be a great alternative to watching porn.

Once last announcement of Peers AP is that we are trying to register as a nonprofit organization.  With some of the things that we are trying to do, we are going to have to raise money.  We will be doing the obvious like putting ads on our webpages, but there will be some other things like selling t-shirts and stuff that will also go into raising money for us.  This is a big project for us and so far is has been funded those in Peers AP, so we are hoping that some of the costs to us will come down with some creative imagination.

Finally, I just wanted to point out that we get a lot of request from parents to help them with talking to their kids.  Talking to your kids about pornography is important, especially since the average starting age for viewing pornography is 11.  With everything that is going on in a young child’s like, curiosity for the opposite sex is bound to happen, so if you have children, please make sure you talk to them.  Peers AP is going to put up an online arcade to hopefully allure more teenagers into our site.  Even though video games are better than wasting a day looking at porn, it shouldn’t be replacing family activities.  The more you do with your children, the less likely they are to be involved in porn.

Peer AP website Progress:

All right, like I promised I would keep everyone updated as to the progress of our work and where we are going.  We have just installed joomla as our content managment system, which we decided to go with because it will allow mulitple people access to the site and each can write without having to reprogram the site each time.  Our site will be fully functionable by the end of this month, so you should check it out.  There will be lots of information on the site, but you will have to register to find out about our online support program.  Yeah, we know you have to register for another site, but this is an important feature for us and I am hoping that it will help many people overcome a porn addiction. 

Is Porn Beatable by yourself?

Theses are exciting times for us at Peers AP, and here is why!!  Beating porn by yourself is one of the most challenging things that one can enter.  There are tons of people who are constantly trying, but in the end they give up or they allow themselves to sink into depression.  Is is possible to beat pornography by yourself?  I would like to believe that nothing is impossible, but I always ask people why do something on your own when you can get help.  Have you ever noticed how easy things become when you have someone there helping you along the way.  Could you imagine trying to learn math or riding a bike by yourself.  While it can be done, it is important to note that it is going to take so much longer. 

 Have you ever been in a situation where you are watching a porno, then after it is done (or you are done, which ever comes first) you are like, okay now I am ready to quit and I am never doing that again.  A few hours go by and you find yourself alone with the internet.  What happens next?  Usually you will find yourself back in-front of the screen. 

Why is it that whenever you make a commitment to stop viewing porn, that you are right back on it.  Once again you need to look at yourself and try to think of all the reasons that you are not reaching your goal.  Internet porn has had so much success because there is privacy and nobody knows that you are doing it.  Well, Peers AP is going to use those the privacy and your identity being a secret as tools to motivate you to change your life.  While we don’t believe in secrecy, we do believe that if you don’t have the courage to tell somebody then that shouldn’t stop you from seeking help.  We found at Peers AP that once people have overcome their porn addictions, they have an easier time talking about it.

Now, we have posted some details about our online community.  If you want to be a mechanic then the fastest way to be a mechanic is to hang around mechanics.  If you want to know how to buy stocks or sell real estate you need to hang out with those types of people.  This is what makes Peers AP different from all those other sites and organizations.  We have been where you are now and we have overcome it.  If you want to beat a porn addiction, you need to be around those who have already beaten it.  This is going to accelerate your progress to where beating porn for those first few weeks will become easier and more completable.  However, we also know that it doesn’t just stop like a majority of people.  Actually statistics show that the older you get the harder it is to get off.  You start of viewing pornography when you were in your teens and maybe you tried to stop.  Five years later you find that you are now in college and you are still fighting porn, only now in college porn is the “cool” thing to do.  Another five years and you are married with kids and that porn habit of yours is still there, only now you wake up in the middle of the night when your wife or spouse is sleeping.  The whole time you thought that you would quit sometime in the future.

Like I said, this is an exciting time for us a Peers AP.  We are forming a few new partnerships that will benefit our members, which will be left unsaid at this time (okay it is a dating site and video game site.  No names yet.).  We are working on our online community which is going to be so much more than just a forum or a place where you can put up some pictures.  This community will be very interactive and hopefully it will keep you busy and motivate you to stay away from porn.  We are not going to be satisfied until you reach a goal of one year with no porn, so mark your calandars because we will be going public January 1, 2008.  A new year, new goals, and new motivation. 

Another thing that we are now working hard at, is to become a legal non-profit organization with (c)5 tax benefits.  This will be important at our growth continues in the following days.  We also have connections now in the political field.  Hopefully we will be able to use these connections to try and get some changes to our laws.

Finially, we would thank everyone for their emails of support and *err well criticism.  This project’s future will depend greatly upon the members.  This is a free service and the people that are working hard to bring you this service are all volunteers.  The money needed to make this project happen has come from our own pockets, so when you send us emails of support or even questions, it makes us feel like we are doing the right thing. 

Please keep a close eye on this blog for more information as events happen.

Blake Taylor

Porn Addiction, How to Get Out (Part 2)

Pornograhy and masterbation, they go hand-in-hand, and statistics show that porn usage is on the rise.  Why is it so hard to quit?  Why has the internet been littered with porn sites?  What is in store for the future? 

 If you are visiting this blog then you probably have heard of Peers AP, if you haven’t then I suggest that you read the “about us” section.  Peers AP is a ground base community of peers helping eachother avoid porn but not for short periods of time, but we help eachother stay away from porn forever.  As you might have guessed, Peers AP is starting an online support group for those with porn addictions.  Our online support group for porn and/or masterbation, is designed to give people strength and encouragement in dealing with porn.  We are a ground based organization in North Carolina, and because of our sucess rate we have decided to try and reach out and create an online community of peers with a common purpose, the elimination of porn from our lives.  Currently the porn online support group is not active at the moment because we are still designing the site, but it will be opened on January 1, 2008, to celebrate the new year and hopefully a new year of being porn free.  The reason that we are waiting till this date instead of doing it now is because there is going to be a meeting in Raleigh around the 20 of December where we will talk about our online plans.  So, December 20th will be a big day for us along with January 1, 2008.  We are using this time to implement some really cool features that will really make the Peers AP website more enjoyable, so now you have some dates to be looking forward too.

Side Effect of Porn – Loneliness

One of the things that Peers AP have decided to do is write about some of the effects that pornography has on people.  Porn can cause many feelings of worthlessness, emptiness, or even hatred.  Many people have come to me with feelings of guilt or hatred of themselves.  Loneliness can be a horrible thing to live with and it is common for people feeling lonely to feel the lack motivation to make changes in their lives.  The truth is that it should make you feel lonely, because you are seperating yourself from people and viewing something that is entirely fantasy.  However if you are feeling lonely today or have felt lonely because of a porn habit then maybe you should rejoice for a moment.  If you are feeling lonely and you are wanting to do something about it then you have made a huge step in overcoming your habit.  Many people don’t quit not because they can’t but because they don’t want to.  Let me say that again many people don’t quit porn not because they can’t but because they don’t want to.

 Growing up I was not a very athletic guy, I wasn’t fat, but I would never have been picked first when playing basketball or other school sports.  I used to tell myself that fitness isn’t something I am good at so I probably shouldn’t expect to excel in any sports at school.  I had a friend who told me that instead of using this as an excuse I should use it as motivation and push myself really hard to make myself fit.  He was right.  Being semi out-of-shape gave me the mentality that I didn’t need to work out because I was still looking decent, however I realized that being semi out-of-shape is the reason that I needed to get fit.  We need to focus our negative energies to help motivate us to accomplish great feats.  I am sure that you all have heard of Thomas Edison and the light bulb.  How many times did people say that he was going to fail?  How many times did he actually fail?  With each time he did not suceed, he used it to motivate himself to try harder.  And that is what I did with exercising.  I joined a run group and I surrounded myself with people who were fit.  I started out slow but I decided not to judge my own pace with that of my friends.  I soon started to pick up the pace and within a month I could keep up the pace with them.  It was not too long afterward when I was starting to be the guy they picked in basketball and the guy that the girls wanted to talk to.  The key to sucess in anything is to surround yourself with people who have your own goals.  My desire was to become fit, so I asked to go out with my friends who were fit and they showed me how.

Being stuck in porn can make you lonely, sad, or give you feelings of worthlessness.  This is why it is so necessary for Peers AP to reach out to everybody, because when you are around people with the same goals, they tend to become easier to accomplish.  People are constantly saying that porn can be difficult to overcome, but that is because people isolate themselves from others.  When you are isolated, feeling lonely, you become alone.  When you are alone it is easier to return to pornography, but when you have friends who are helping you and supporting you, who have been where you are now, things become so much more easy.

The Peers AP community will have:

• A support group not only where people support you, but you will get to support others. 
• You will be assigned a team, and each month the team will be working toward completeing objectives.
• Teams will be competing against eachother and your progress can help the team become better.
• Individual support through an assigned buddy where you will be able to help eachother stay motivated.
• Information about things that you will need to prepare yourself for as you progress towards beating porn.

So, the next time you are feeling lonely, do something about it.  Do what I did and surround yourself with people who are seeking similar things.  I was around people who were good at running, and even though I was not good at first, I soon became better.  Yes, there we days where I didn’t want to run anymore, but I had people who were expecting me so I showed up and ran anyway.  Now, I can say that I love to run and that I am good at it.  Peers AP is the same principle.  There will be days where you will be weak and feeling down, but you will carry on because there are people counting on you.  You won’t start off being the best, but as time progresses you will find your mind thinking less about porn and more on talents or hobbies.

Remember the choices that we make today affect us tomorrow.  Imagine having the strength to beat porn for a year, or how about the rest of your life?  It can happen and as it does you will find that you have many talents and hobbies that you never knew about, but the biggest thing that will happen is that you will be happier. 

Written by Lance

Porn Addiction, how to get out? (Part 1)

Porn addiction is on the rise and more and more people have sexual addictions.  With this increase people are looking for information on the whys and how and what to dos.  This can be a hard subject for many to deal with, and porn addiction or sexual addiction usually is accompanied with denial.  If you look at porn on a regular basis you run the risk of being addicted to porn.  If you don’t know then I would recommend you trying to not look at porn for a month.  That includes softcore, hardcore, lingere, and anything else that can be sexually stimulating.  I know some people who have done this and they were shocked to find out how are it was to comply. 

 If you think that you might have a problem with a porn or sexual addiction, I would exhort you to seek out help.  Either from a friend you trust or a professional.  Peers Against Pornography is undergoing some major delays with everything that we have going on.  Our online support group is still under construction and we are sorry to admit but it we won’t be able to return back to work on it till november.  We were trying to customize everything on the page to make it look professional and pretty, but we have decided to ditch that plan and go with templates.  Once again we are here to support you, so if you would like anymore information or need someone to talk to email us at webmaster@peersap.org.  We will keep you informed of our progress, and you will see just how dedicated we are to helping peers, and putting out information about porn. 

Phil Smeby

How Porn has Affected my Life.

Yesterday I was hanging around a group of friends, all of which are younger then myself, and we were talking about the the many accomplishments that each of us had done in our lives.  There was talk of someone who played basketball in high school, of one who loved to sing, and some of how they had worked hard and got a full ride scholarship into a college.  After a few minutes of bragging the conversation suddenly got into the subject of Pornography and which porn stars are the hottest.  I was told that watching pornography was the thing that men do, and that if you don’t watch pornography, there was something wrong.  In this group was a young fellow who was only 18, and he had just finished high school.  It was obvious from the way that he talked that he was somewhat sheltered.  My friends soon ascertained that this young lad was still a virgin and that he was not to big into pornography.

“Tonight is the night,”  they told him, “You are going to become a man by buying your first porno.”  I was really shocked by the mindset of these young men who thought that in order to become a man that you have to be sexually active.  The 18 year old lad had a look of puzzlement on his face, when he looked at me looking for my approval.  “What do you think?” I asked him.  Nothing came out of his lips, but after a monents silence he went to the door and grabbed his shoes.

I lightly grabbed him by his arm and I asked him what he thinks it means to be a man.  He didn’t have an answer.  I sat him down and I told him that I am married and I have a beautiful daughter.  I asked him is it would be manly of me to abandon my wife and child to pursue a life of viewing pornography.  He replied that it would be irresponsible of me.  This young man was absolutely correct.  Being a man is about being able to take care of yourself and those around you. 

I told him that when I was younger pornography split my parents up.  My father’s sex drive was decreased and his desire to spend time with his children also decreased.  In fact there would be nights where he wouldn’t come home or when my mother would recieve phone calls from random females asking for my dad.  My dad would also stay up at night looking on the internet for porn.  It turns out that my dad was addicted as a teen and he never had the strengh to overcome it.

I proceeded to explain my life to this young lad.  I was in the third grade when a friend of mind brought a porn to school.  We were curious and and it came back to haunt me later on in my life.  I had a project due for english class so I stayed up that night trying to finish it off.  As I was getting closer to finishing my project, I decided to take a break and watch some late night tv.  I will never forget that night because I desired so badly to view it again.  And I did.  I woke up every night to watch softcore porn on the premium channels.  My grades started to slip, and I was tired all the time.  By the time I reached high school I was already addicted to porn.  I would visit blockbuster and walk around the store trying to find sexually provocative things to stimulate me. 

It wasn’t until later when I decided to get myself into some after school activities that things started to change for me.  During that time I spent alot of time think about how nice it would be to date girls, and to be able to have cool talents.  I never realized that I had girls wanting to date me and they were being exteremly obvious.  I had destroyed myself because it is easy to lose yourself in pornography.  Time goes by super quickly and you never get it back. 

I was lucky enough to have some friends who found me stuggling.  They helped me overcome my problem and I helped them overcome theirs.  It is amazing how much pornography devours your life.  I loved to play sports, but I never played them at school.  I love to act, but I never tried out for school plays.  I wanted to date, but I never dated.  I wanted to be happy and have people like me, but even though people did like me, I was unhappy and I didn’t like myself.  You see porn, in my opinion, makes you less of a man because you can’t take care of yourself and you don’t care about others. 

The young lad told me that he was greatful that I talked to him about that because there was a girl that he was interested in but he didn’t know how to talk with her.  We continued our talk and most of the others continued out the door saying that porn isn’t that bad, but when everyone had left one of the fellows came back in and told me that his life was destroyed because of porn.  He had tried to stop many times before but he felt powerless to overcome it.  He felt alone and thought that he was a horrible person, then he thanked me for my story.

I tell this story because I want people to know that pornography destroyed my life and the life of my father and mother.  With the rise of the internet more and more people are becoming addicted to porn and they may feel like dirt.  I am here to let everyone know that you are not alone.  You are not dirt and that you can become something valueable.  I now have an awesome wife and two daughters.  I love them dearly and I would not trade them for anything.  If you are addicted to porn, please get help.  If you don’t know where to go, then visit www.peersap.org.  This is a site for people who are stuggling and need assistance.

If you know someone who has been affected by porn then I would urge then to become a member of Peers AP so that we can fight this together.  I was luckly that I had some good friends to help me overcome this battle, and no matter what happened they were there for me.  I would like to point out that pornography is everywhere and all you have to do is look.  Pornography is inticing many good people and they we need to help eachother support and educate eachother so that others will not make the same mistakes that we have.

Written by:

Blake Taylor

New to Pornography?

How many people out there do you think have never run into pornography?  My guess is none, but I could be wrong.  Maybe you are someone who has a loved one how is living in secret about his or her addiction, or maybe you are the addict living in secret because of the fear of rejection by those who don’t understand what it is like.  You also have those who look at it casually, who think that watching porn with a group of friends is fine.  Who are we to judge?

Now you can go around the web and read about all these anti-porn documents and get yourself really worked up, but my question is who are they targeted at?  I was on a site today that was harsh against those how are addicted, saying that we should all rise up and take the government hostage and … (exageration)  You have others that have nothing but articles on their webpages about why pornography is wrong, which to me is targeted at people who don’t have the addiction in the first place.  If you have a child who is doing something wrong, it is so easy to yell and tell the child that he is wrong, but to actually take the child and show him right, to have patience with that child, and show him or her that you actually support them, that is what is going to make a difference in the world.

 

     Now I know that you all have seen a spider web before.  I am sure that everyone has seen something get caught in the web and stuggle to get out.  Actually I am willing to bet that you have seen a fly minding it’s own business when all of a sudden *SMACK* the fly is trapped wondering what ever happened.  

     You know they say that pornography is like unto a spider’s web.  I say that I couldn’t agree more, not because it is hard to get out but because a majority of people addicted to porn are unaware of the presence of the web.  A majority of the people addicted to porn are stuck in the web embarrased and ashamed because they can’t get out, never knowing that it was there, and never knowing how to escape.

Have you ever taken a moment to think about what it is like for a fly stuck in a spider’s web?  How about have you ever put yourself inside the shoes of a porn addict?  Someone who doesn’t know where to turn for help because of ridicule?  Imagine living everyday with guilt and regret because you feel like the only person who understands is you.  Now what if I told you that there are people who know exactly what you are feeling like and where you are coming from?  What if I have told you that I have been on the spider’s web and that I am now free?  What if there was a place where you could go where there are actually people who have been addicted to porn and have beaten it, where there is no disgrace and no regret?

Peers Against Pornography is a group of PEERS that have been to the web and have escaped and know what it is that you are going through.  We know what is going to happen before it even does because we have all been through it. 

I am sure that you have all seen plywood before, because we use it in construction and in furniture.  In fact, an engineer once told me that it is very important to know how much weight the wood can support in order to make things safe.  He continued explaining that by itself a certain board could safely hold 200 pounds, “but did you know,” he asked me, “that when I place two board together that they quadruple their strength?”  That means that a board which is only capable of supporting 200 pounds, when doubled with another is capable of holding upto 800 pounds.

 Imagine recieving four times the strength to beat porn.  Would you feel confident again?  Would you feel a purpose again?  Would you feel like you were in control again?  I bet you would, in fact, I guarentee you that you would.  Like I said I agree with the spider web analogy only because I see things get trapped in them all the time not knowing that the web was there.

Last summer I saw a butterfly get caught up in a web.  The butterfly struggled and struggled but by itself it was not match for that spider’s web, so I went to it and I set it free.

 You see Peers Against Pornography was founded by people who are/were addicted to porn and they know what you are going through, they know what you are feeling, and they want to help.  In fact, the way that it works is they help you and in turn you help them, because we all know that beating pornography is a life-long task.  We want to help people understand where we are coming from and with Peers Against Pornography they give you the chance to talk about where you are coming from and what it is like for a porn addict. 

My name is Lance and I am a journalist for Peers AP, and I will put up a bio in the forum which is at www.forum.peersap.org/portal.php I want to share with you how I am beating porn and how Blake beat it.  I want to show you how to gain strengh when you are feeling lonely or just plain weak.  I want to show you how to feel confident again and how to mend broken relationships.  I want to show you that you are not alone, and I want to show you what you can do when you quadruple your strength, which actually be more than that when you find out how many people are you have supporting you. 

My name is Lance and I hope that you decide to try it out.  I am going to get onto Phil and Blake and tell them that they need to get this thing moving.  Well at least put out the information their system because it truely is amazing.